12 Scary Signs That It's Time to Leave Your Company

Want to safety-proof your job? Here are 12 signs to even out your career, and discover when it's time to quit.

1. The bills aren't paid on time.

If you work with a creative agency, freelancers, outside IT, event management, or in another similar service, and your provider is telling you that their bills aren't being paid on time, your ears should perk up. Don't let the accounting department blame it on a temporary cash flow problem; ask what's really going on.

2. You don't get paid.

Even companies in trouble will do everything in their power to pay employees first and every other bill second, so if you're not getting paid or your check arrives late, know that your company's financial situation is pretty dire.

3. No raises.

Businesses need to invest in talent. Not only do stingy raises bring down morale, but it guarantees the loss of top performers as well. Happy employees are such a significant part of a sustainable business that if you hear the news that there are no salary increases for the year, run for the hills.

4. Leadership changes.

When your CEO or president is pushed out of the company, and new leadership comes in, it's time to activate your backup plan. Regardless of whether you do phenomenal work, new leadership often means a new vision and direction—one that may not include your position or even your department.

5. High turnover.

Do people keep quitting? It's often a sign of poor management, salary, and benefit practices. Constant turnover affects the entire organization too; new employees act as roadblocks until they receive the required training they need to get up to speed.

6. A hiring freeze.

Some companies will tell you about a hiring freeze, but many others simply won't fill a position when an employee quits. The explanation may be that the old position is redundant or no longer relevant to the organization's current goals, but more likely, the company needs to save cash.

7. Reorganization and restructuring.

Do you suddenly have a new boss? Did your colleague switch departments? A new organizational structure may not make sense to you, but it probably helps the spreadsheets balance. It's also a sign that the company is floundering to find its footing and focus.

8. Closed doors

If more and more meetings start to happen behind closed doors, take it as a sign that something is up. While being secretive can mean a big product launch, it can also mean that there are tough issues that need to be discussed. In general, a quiet office is a dead office.

9. Employee morale

When complaints start to outnumber celebrations, you have a problem. Look out for signs that employees start leaving early and coming in late first, then listen for the complaints. A toxic environment where all your colleagues are unhappy is not a fun or productive place to work.

10. Unclear direction, goals, or mission

If you're not sure what you should be working on from one week to the next, and asking for clarification gets you nowhere, take it as a sign that the company ship is sinking. Employees need clear, organizational leadership to execute on.

11. Delayed implementation

Got great ideas but can't push them through? When you aren't allowed to execute on even low-cost strategies, it's often a frustrating sign that you won't be able to contribute any sort of meaningful work any time soon. Watch out, your company is probably coming to a standstill.

12. Frenzied, stop-and-go pace

One week you're knee-deep into new objectives and tasks, and the next week your plate is empty. What's going on? A stop-and-go pace will make it impossible to build upon success or failure, so try to find some consistency or find a new job.

6 Things That Make You Look Amateur on Your Resume

1. Short-term jobs.

If you quit a job after a few weeks because you couldn't see your future there, don't put it on your resume. Employers look at short-term jobs as a sign that you're flighty, and you want to avoid that perception at all costs. If you have more short-term jobs (that relate to the one you want) than long-term, or many short-term consulting arrangements, you can add them into a section for one year. If you are listing many consulting assignments, make sure it's clear in your resume that it was not a full-time, permanent position.

2. Job experience that doesn't relate.

If you're trying to work as an administrative assistant, but one of your past jobs was working as a restaurant server, leave that one off the list. However, if your job history doesn't provide enough experience for the Work History section of your resume, find ways to connect the unrelated work to what you want to do. For example, when you worked as a server, were there any tasks that related to the administrative assistant position you're vying for? You might be surprised to find that some of the skills you learned will translate for the job you want. Highlight these points in your resume.

3. Every responsibility you had at a job.

Focus on a high level, and keep only what relates to the job you're applying for. A resume isn't the place to copy your job description; instead, it's meant to highlight the best of what you've done at past companies and tie it to what you will do with your next employer.

4. References

While you do need a list of people who can vouch for you as an employee and overall exemplary citizen, you don't have to include the list with your resume. And don't add the phrase "References Available Upon Request." It's a given you have and will provide references when it comes to that point in the interview process.

5. Hobbies.

Many argue that listing your hobbies on your resume gives the employer a better sense of your overall character. While that might be true, hobbies can also be used against you and employers can jump to conclusions about you before having the chance to meet you. Unless the hobby relates to the job you want and it's not covered in your job experience, keep it off.

6. Why you left a job.

Save this for the interview. Some job applications may ask for this information, but never volunteer it on your own. Explanations on your resume are required to be brief and could easily cast you in a negative light. It's much better to discuss this in person when you'll have the opportunity to explain further, if necessary.

Should You Tell Your Employer About Your Side Job?

Low wages, pay freezes, and the threat of layoffs mean that for many employees a second job is a necessity. But does your employer agree?

While a side job can mean the difference between "making it" and financial ruin, companies have become more stringent in regulating what their employees do outside of work. Some organizations prohibit side jobs altogether, while others enforce disciplinary action ranging from immediate dismissal, to a written reprimand, to a demotion.

From a company's perspective, it's for good reason. But don't allow your employer's policies and red tape to scare you away from creating financial padding and learning new skills. Whether you take on additional work as a freelancer, consultant, floor salesperson, or start selling your handcrafted goods, moonlighting can be your path toward building a better future.

If you decide to set up shop outside your current workplace, set up a meeting with your boss first. You need to request approval even if there are no explicit policies regarding side jobs in the employee handbook. (Hint: And if a second job is clearly prohibited, you can still ask.) Don't risk getting fired or losing extra income over a simple five-minute conversation. Here's how:

Know Why Your Company is Worried

Employers typically don't see any advantages to their employees working side jobs, but it can be beneficial for both employer and employee, stimulating creativity, motivation, and new ideas. The key is to keep the focus on your current position:

Put the company first. Most employers want to hear that you'll continue to put your job at their company first. Assuage your manager's concerns by letting her know you won't work at your second job during office hours and that you'll still be able to work overtime during periods of heavy work. Show your commitment to your current position as a priority.

Lay out how you'll remain effective. Your boss doesn't want you to be overwhelmed and fatigued just because you're working multiple jobs, so lay out the strategies that will allow you to remain just as effective as you are now. Don't talk about the new job; discuss how you'll continue to rock your current one.

Keep quiet about confidential information. A small number of companies will be concerned that you'll leak confidential, in-house information, particularly if your side job is utilizing the same skills that your existing job does. If you can't get permission to work in the same vertical, try a side job in a different arena all together.

Act as a good representative. What you do off-hours can seem like none of your employer's business, but it is, especially if what you're doing could be deemed offensive to your employer's customers. Make sure that whatever side job you choose won't put you in an awkward position with any of your company's clients, partners, or customers.

These tips should get you quick approval to take on the side job you've been dreaming about. If you can't get approval however, consider volunteering or taking a career development class. While many employers won't support you getting paid to expand your skill set, they will endorse broadening your horizons in general.

5 Things to Carry on a Romantic Vacation

The plans have been made and the bags have been packed: you have decided to leave the crazy city and bring some romance in your life. While we are totally in-sync with this idea of yours, we have some packing tips for you that you will surely find helpful. Before you jet set off, remember to carry these 5 things along with you.

1. Gift wrap a surprise

Happy surprises are always welcome. And they feel even better when handed out on holidays. Remember to pack a little something for your sweetheart and surreptitiously slip it under her pillow. This is a sure shot happy way to begin that romantic holiday.

2. Sexy lingerie

Not for you, for her! It would be pretty awesome if you buy your love some sexy lingerie. Go to a department store and ask the lady attendant to help you. There is nothing creepy in this, so don’t be embarrassed. Some sexy lingerie is sure to set the mood and get your hormones jumping for joy.

3. Candles and Music

You cannot get it right, till the mood is right. Be sure to carry candles and an updated playlist along with you. Dance a bit, soak in the music, and let the romance settle in. Perfect!

4. Condoms / Birth Control Pills

We don’t need to elaborate on this now, do we?

5. Personal Grooming items

Chances are you will stay indoors for long. Therefore, personal grooming is extremely important given your space constraints. Carry essential items and do what you wish, but don’t compromise on personal grooming.

Doing It Outside the Bedroom

Who says that sex needs to be confined to the bedroom alone? With a little bit of creativity and an adventurous spirit, sex can be equally thrilling in other places as well. Here’s an insider’s look at the places most suitable for doing the deed.

1. Living Room Couch

If you were using the couch just for watching television and lazing around, you have been seriously undermining its true potential. Most adventurous

couples love to take their passions up a notch, by using their couches to make love. Considering the cramped space and the fact that it is nearly not as comfortable as the bed, one needs to come up with newer techniques, to keep the passions going.

2. The Shower Cubicle

Can there be a sexier start to a day than taking a warm and steamy shower with your ladylove? The water streaming down her nude skin is

enough to signal the start of a passionate overture. The best thing about this is that you need not carry her all the way to a bedroom, if you feel the need to act out on your urges. The shower cubicle is the perfect place to have sex, allowing enough room for passionate embraces and lovemaking. So just turn on the shower and lose yourself in the sexual haze.

3. Kitchen Counter

Consider the following situation: Your ladylove is cooking up a storm in the kitchen. You sneak up from behind and gently tease her into arousal. To proceed to make love you need only

lift her and place her on the counter top and let your bodies run their courses. Not only does having sex on the kitchen counter make for a lovely change of place, but also gives you the brilliant opportunity to shake up your lovemaking approach. Besides, now you can watch over your dinner while having sex (not that you would be paying attention to it.)

4. The Floor

Of all the places to have sex in, the floor is the most underrated and therefore one of the most coveted places. Spread a clean rug on the floor

and let your passionate urges take over. The empty spaces without the risk of bumping into other furniture, provides ample room for various positions.

5. The Backseat of Your Car

Who says that you can only feel passionate within the safe confines of your house? The more adventurous couples are taking intercourse to the next level by stepping outside of their

comfort zones. So the next time you feel the urge to have sex with your sweetie while driving, stop the car and unleash your inner sexual beast in the backseat. She will never forget the sexual experience. At the end of the day, sex is only a way to physically express your emotions and when passions run high, it shouldn’t have to wait for night time and a cosy bed.

10 Things Women Hate About Men

1. Feelings

I’ll give top spot to feelings – or rather a man’s apparent inability to express his feelings and talk about them to a woman. Women love yapping away and are known for speaking their minds and making their feelings well known. Mind it; not talking about feelings is very different from having your feelings under control. Issues arise when you cannot see the thin line which separates the two.

2. Over-dominance

It is absolutely noble to want to protect your woman and make her feel safe. It is pretty much every man’s duty. However, your woman is definitely not going to like it if you turn from protector to dictator on her. Don’t try to control specific aspects of her life. You might actually end up suffocating her.

3. Language

While the ‘swearing-woman’ is no longer a myth, she is definitely not going to approve if every fourth or fifth word you speak is an expletive. There are some men who just cannot express themselves without having to resort to swearing. A word here and there is okay when you’re upset; just don’t make it the norm if you want to be in the woman’s good books.

4. Just not romantic enough

Women like to portray that tough, not-a-helpless-girl attitude – but at heart, they’re always going to be hopelessly romantic. There’s nothing that a woman would possibly want more than a male partner who connects with her emotionally, and manages to catch her off guard with those little romantic advances. If you’re that guy who thinks romance is an alien concept, you’re going to have a tough time with the women.

5. Predictable vs. Spontaneous

It doesn’t need a rocket scientist or a love guru to tell you which category of men is preferred by women out of the two. Let’s face it; things do get boring after a while. Be a little creative and innovative. Do something out of the blue, and make sure you tell her that she is the only reason you went to the extent of doing something new and put in that extra effort to make it special.

6. Grooming

While we have come a long way from the days of the cave man to being today’s sophisticated creatures, some men take it upon themselves to remind the world of the early man and his habits. Inadequate grooming, wearing clothes which look centuries old, unkempt hair, etc are not going to win you any brownie points with the fairer sex. They like their men well-mannered and presentable.

7. Arguments

This is something you want to avoid at all costs. All of us know who wins anyhow. Do not turn every conversation or discussion into an argument. Be patient and understanding. This brings to my next point…

8. Listen, listen, listen!

Woes befall you if you let your mind wander away during a conversation and missed out on what she was saying. We men are often accused of having short attention spans and not paying heed when a woman speaks. Classic case in point is the verbal grocery shopping list. Make it a habit, forcefully if needed, to listen to every bit of her incessant yapping. At least pretend for heaven’s sake.

9. Her friends, your friends. Only friends though!

Women like to test their men by observing how they socialize with their girl-friends. It’s a tough balancing act, trust me. On the one hand you have to appear friendly, charming and likeable to her friends. At the same time, pay a little extra attention than needed, and you’ll be accused of being a flirt. Tread carefully.

10. The wandering eye

While every woman loves the fact that her man appreciates her body, you’re going to have to look into her eyes when you talk. The last impression you want to create is that of a creep. Being a little gentlemanly never hurt anyone. Also, keep those eyes off other women, unless you want to take Angry Birds a little too literally.

How To Impress a Girl On The Phone

1. Know when to call

You cannot call her randomly any time of the day. Nor can you call her twenty times in a day. What you must do, however, is know when you can call her. It could be in her lunch break, or when she is

travelling back home from work or late at night. If you get the timing of the call right, then the conversation is bound to head in the right direction. 

2. Know what to talk

We know that you will stick to talking sweet little nothings and that you will flirt on the phone. While you should do this, don’t ever get to talking about work and how it troubles you. She is

not your agony aunt, she is the girl you want to impress. Also, show concern for what is happening in her life right now. Ask after her work and family, and then let her carry the conversation forward in the direction she pleases. Not to forget, talking about your ex is a strict no-no.

3. Show concern

Show concern for what is happening in her life right now. Ask after her work and family, and then let her carry the conversation forward in the direction she pleases.

4. Talk sweetly

You will be able to impress her if you talk softly and sweetly on the phone. Don’t be loud and don’t get aggressive. Let your true feelings for her engulf you and let the love do the talking! 

5. Don’t lie

The last thing you want to do is lie to her. If you fumble while talking, cook up stories, or sound unsure of what you are saying she will know something is wrong. If she begins to doubt your intentions, or mistrusts you, everything will do downhill from there on.

6. Be a good listener

The whole point of a phone call goes to waste if you don’t listen to what she has to say. So make it a point to listen to her attentively and give her your 100% attention. 

7. Talk about common interests

She will go to sleep if you talk about stuff that does not interest her – like football, F1 or computers. Make it a point to talk about things that you both like and find interesting.  

8. Sing (only if you can)

This may sound a bit unusual, but you can definitely give it a try. If you have a fairly decent voice then you should sing to her over the phone. String a guitar along if possible. She will surely

be impressed and flattered.  If you want to impress a girl on the phone, then the best tip we can give you is to sound genuine. Don’t sound too cocky and fake. Keep it simple and keep it sweet. She will be able to hear the sweetness in your voice and she will start to develop feelings for you.   

10 Things Girls Love to Hear

That women think very differently from men, is a fact you must have known.

However, what they think, and what the right things to say to them are, may remain aspects you flounder with. So, here are the 10 things girls love to hear. Pay heed and utilize this list to your benefit.

1. I love you

There is no limit to the number of times girls love to hear these three clichéd, yetmagical words. So, without losing the essence, utter these words to your woman as often as possible. Make sure, however, that you mean it, each time you say it.

2. I miss you

Whether you are in different states/countries or simply a work-day away from seeing each other, let her know that you miss being with her. A surprise SMS in the middle of the day may just make her day!

3. Your hair looks lovely

Of course, this is a terrible line to use on the days on which she is suffering from a bad-hair day. Nevertheless, when you are picking her up for a date, or meeting her after a certain period of time, this line may make her heart skip a beat.

4. You smell so good

An utterance bound to bring a glorious smile to her face, will make her more confident around you.

5. You have sexy legs

Beware! Do not use this line on your woman if she is slightly on the voluptuous side, or actually does not have those sexy legs you wish to compliment her on. A girl with genuinely fine-shaped legs deserves this compliment, though.

6. I love being with you

Nothing can make her feel more special than to know that the time you spend in her company comprises the best moments in your life. Say it when you have spent a really wonderful evening together.

7. You have an amazing smile

Even if she doesn’t, this line is sure to create the most dazzling smile you ever saw. If you wish to keep that zing alive in the relationship, make sure you mean it and let her know how much you love to see that smile of hers.

8. I cannot imagine life without you

If you are in an intimate relationship, these magical words will draw her closer to you and intensify the relationship. Let her know this, but only if you truly feel it. She will know she is the centre of your world.

9. You are the best thing that happened to me

Knowing that of all the people you have met, success you have tasted and bonds you have created, the one with her is the best one will make her literally swoon and be yours forever.

10. I wanna grow old with you

Cementing any true love is the sentence that can never go wrong between two lovers. This is the ultimate line to make the eyes get teary and the heart more filled with love.

While there are no rules to this game, knowing what to say to women is of utmost importance to keep them happy and the relationship healthy. However, anything uttered in a genuine and heart-felt manner is bound to be the right thing to say to her.

Top 10 Sex-Related Myths Busted

Sex has to be one of the most talked about, yet least understood topics on this planet. 

Here are the top 10 mythsrelated to sex and the reality about them.

Myth 1: Men Think About Sex More, Women Less

While men are very easily labelled the stronger and hornier sex, women get away with being called the weaker and tamer ones. It is popularly believed that men think about sex once in seven seconds. However, you will be surprised to know that a recent study revealed this figure was actually once in an hour, while in women, it was once in two hours, and sometimes, even more frequently than that.

Myth 2: Women Prefer Commitment to Casual Sex

It is easier to believe that a man wants to be with a woman just for the sex, while the woman seeks long-term commitment from the relationship. Wrong! Not all women are like that. With the ever-growing levels of sexual frustration prevalent in metropolitan cities, there are many women out there who prefer a no-commitment association with a man, simply to relieve their stress.

Myth 3: If She Doesn’t Make Pleasure Noises, She Isn’t Enjoying It

Making pleasurable and erotic sounds while love-making heighten the sensuality of the act, and get the two people even more turned on. However, the absence of these sounds does not imply that that your woman is not enjoying the sex – she may simply be less vocal about it!

Myth 4: She Cannot Get Pregnant when She Has Sex during Menstruation

While the likelihood of getting pregnant is lesser during this period, having sex during menstruation does not keep the scare away completely. Women with a briefer cycle tend to be more prone to becoming pregnant if they make out during those days.

Myth 5: Porn Doesn’t Turn on Women

Men are classified as notorious when it comes to watching pornographic videos. However, women are only great at keeping their secret, and not as open about this. They enjoy erotica as much as their partners and watching a hot scene right before your own steamy session can only heighten the pleasure!

Myth 6: Pulling Out Before Ejaculation Will Prevent Pregnancy

A lesser known fact is that the sperm-producing starts as soon as you get an erection. So, unless the aim is to get pregnant, be careful about unprotected sex, even without an ejaculation.

Myth 7: If You Masturbate More, You Produce Less Semen

The amount of semen that you can produce may vary between a few drops to more than a teaspoonful. The sperm count, therefore, could be anywhere between 40 and 500 million. If you masturbate every day, and even if you do several times a day, you need not worry about ever running out of semen!

Myth 8: Sex Can Be Like in the Movies

You have got to be one lucky chap if your partner can hold on for as long as even 20 minutes. Several studies have been conducted in this regard and they reveal that 75 per cent men have an orgasm within the first 5 minutes of penetration, and that about 30 per cent women have an orgasm only through masturbation.

Myth 9: Men Cheat More than Women

Think men are always the unfaithful ones? Think again. A recent study reveals that while 20 per cent men are having affairs outside of their marriages, the figure lies at 15 per cent among women.

Myth 10: “Honey, I am Too Tired…”

When she says that, know that it is nothing but a lie. Sex is not something that tires you out, it leaves you feeling refreshed and energised. At the end of the day, if you are suffering a headache, see how the pain goes after a 20-minute steamy session in bed.

There are probably a lot of other misconceptions about the subject of sex. So, make sure you stay clued up and updated!

How to Propose to an Indian Girl?

Flirting, being friends or very good friends and going out on a special date with a girl; all are very different situations from proposing a girl.

 Men who are going to propose an Indian girl should do this with utmost care. It hurts very much to get denial after proposing a girl. When it comes to proposing an Indian girl, men need to take several factors in to account. Here is a short guide to help you know the best way to propose an Indian girl.

Duration of your relationship

If you are friends with an Indian girl for just 1 or 2 weeks, do not propose her. Give time to your relationship so that it can grow. When a man, who knows a girl for a very short period of time; proposes her; the girl gets to know that the person is just fooling around. However, if you know a girl very well for many months then proposing seems acceptable. 

The quality of your relationship

If you know a girl for a year but have spent only a few lonely moments with her then you should not propose her. Before proposing a girl think yourself that how it will appear to propose a girl whom you just don’t know very well. On the other hand, if you share a very enjoyable relationship with a girl then it will not appear abnormal to propose on your part.  You need to understand that there should be strong reasons for your proposal. Only then the girl would trust you. It is very difficult for an Indian girl to understand that a man who does not know her well really has honest feeling for her. 

Timing

Choose a day when you are on a date with your girl. Observe the mood of the girl whom you are going to propose. If the girl is in a bad mood then don’t propose her. You will suffer without any reason just because of wrong timing. Also, keep on giving hints about your proposal before really proposing a girl. This helps in creating a good platform before you really propose her. 

The style for proposing an Indian girl

This is the most important part of proposing an Indian girl. Men should understand that there is no rigid style of proposing a girl. Every girl wishes to get proposed in a unique manner. Keep this in mind and propose her in your own unique style. Be creative and avoid copying someone else. Propose her in such manner that she feels like a princess or the most beautiful woman in the whole universe. Assure her that you will always take care of her and do anything for her happiness. Avoid proposing in a direct manner. It sounds boring and Indian girls would not like it. If they ask for some time to give response then give it to her (Also, you don’t have another option). Remember that patience always pays.

Being Prepared—Doing Your Homework could be the Difference-Maker So, you are sure about getting your timing right and you have decided upon the style of proposing to your Indian girlfriend. However, an important question remains to be asked—have you don’t your homework?

Yes, this might sound a bit strange, but when proposing to a lady, it is vital that you come across as somebody who is seriously interested in her. This means having observed her closely and taking the initiative to find out more about her. If she is your colleague at the office, digging information about her likes and dislikes isn't that difficult. If she is within your extended circle of friends, the task becomes even easier. When you propose to her, it should seem that you know about her preferences and her personality type.

Is she the upfront type who has only dated bold, macho guys in the past? If yes, your style of proposing would be better-off being quick and blunt about it. If she is the sporty types, it would be better if you propose going out on a small adventure trip as a part of the proposal or initiate the conversation with how you have always wanted to try rock climbing. This combination of asking her out and mentioning something that she really likes will make her think that yes, you do understand her and there is something common to build upon.

If she is the shy type, ensure that it doesn’t seem like you are hitting upon her. Before you actually propose, do some homework. Identify her closest friends. Send her some subtle reminders and teasers about the fact that you really like her. In this manner, you would have taken-out the sting of shock or awe at the time of actually proposing to her. Think of this as establishing a reasonable base when proposing to an Indian girl.

Your Choice of Words is Critical When Proposing

Even after the best of preparations, if you end-up saying the wrong things at moment ofproposing to an Indian girl, you are bound to make things difficult for yourself. Rather than leaving it all to spontaneity, it is better to being a bit prepared about how are going to put forth your proposal. The fact is that unless she is a total stranger to you, you don’t need to explain yourself to her. All you need to do is directly ask her out without using the words “date”. There is nothing wrong with using this word but it gives things a rather typical perception.

You are better-off proposing in a manner that is both direct and a bit subtle. Your lines should include phrases like ‘I have been observing you for a long time’ or ‘I have a gut feeling that you wouldn’t mind going out with me’. Don’t bombard her with flowers or gifts before actually saying something. That just seems like a lame attempt to melt her a bit before hitting her with the proposal. Being a bit apprehensive, anxious or even stammering a bit is not an issue as you say it. Don’t try to act too cool or someone you are not. Don’t behave like some overconfident schmuck who couldn’t care less.

Your Body Language has to be Confident & Suggestive

When you propose to an Indian girl or a lady from any part of the world for that matter, your body language makes a huge difference. If you are
naturally confident, most issues are resolved and you don’t need much help. If you are a bit apprehensive or unsure about her reaction, ensure you follow some basics. This includes, looking her in the eye when you propose to her. You should be facing her, without your hands in your pockets or waving around too much in the air. If you seem a bit vulnerable or emotional, it works towards your favor as it lends an emotional depth to your actions. If you tend to get tense when approaching such situations, just take 10 minutes to do some last-minute preparations to keep yourself calm. This can include deep breathing and doing some neck rotations.

Tackling the Post-Proposal Moments/Period

Let us assume the positive outcome of your proposal. Even then, it is not necessary that she outrightly says, yes. Most Indian women still carry a bit of coyness that makes them so unique. Her approval might be in the form of blinking her eyes and smiling. If she is the waiting type or wants to play the hard-to-get sort of games, she might tell you to wait for her phone call. The ideal way to handle the outcome of your proposal to an Indian girl is to give her time and not force the issue.

Don’t seek immediate answers. Don’t pressurize her into being very clear about her response. You need to understand that she might need a few moments to recollect herself. Yes, being spontaneous about the entire thing would be ideal but it isn't bound to happen with every girl. So, allow her the liberty to handle things the way she wants. Don’t call her and ask for her impending answer. After having proposed to her, take a back step and allow fate to take its own course. Don’t approach the proposal with any fixed notions in your head, it is better to be prepared for the worst-case scenario and hope for her immediate acceptance.

7 secrets women never tell you

It is no secret that women are good at keeping secrets.

Sometimes these secrets are life changing and sometimes they are so ridiculously stupid that if they would be known they would be the cause of major embarrassment. No matter how ‘close’ you’ll are as a couple, there will be some secrets that your woman will never tell you. This does not reflect on your relationship or her love for you, but something’s are just not meant to be told.

Whether she tells you or not, we are going to spill some of these secrets (generic ones) and let you in on the woman psyche just a tad bit more.

1. The number of crushes she has had:

Why you would be interested in knowing more about her crushes is something women cannot comprehend. But if you do ask her about her crushes, don’t expect the absolute truth. There are some things that women like to keep to themselves. These boy-crushes remind them of the good young days, of the innocence lost and of simpler times. Unmasking the crush could mean tampering with those pure memories. Hence, women don’t like to talk about them.

2. Whether it’s PMS or simply, her bitchiness:

Women can switch on the ‘bitch’ mode as and when they like and switch it off as per convenience as well. Sometimes, there are people that truly piss them off. And if these people are your close friends then the situation is bound to get tricky. A woman will remove her frustration and put that person in place by being voluntarily bitchy, but she will cover it up by saying it was good old PMS doing the bad stuff and not her. This is an old trick that most women use, so beware!

3. What’s her annual shopping budget:

Women can never get enough of shopping. It will do you good to know that shopping for women is not a hobby; it is a full time job. And this job is one that women take more seriously than any other. Shopping plans and agendas are always made well in advance and are meticulously planned. What should be purchased, what is needed and what can be put on hold: it is all stored in the mind palace. And this detail will not be shared with you in advance. It will only creep into the conversation if monetary assistance or opinion is absolutely needed. So next time she squeals about having ‘impulsively’ bought a new bag, you know better!

4. What she and her girlies do/talk about during Girls Night Out:

All questions pertaining to Girls' Night Out will be met with minimum responses and a quick change of subject. If you push further, you will get one steely look and that will be enough for you to not prod further. Girls Night Out is her time to let go, have a good time and focus on herself. She will not share these precious ‘me’ moments with you.

5. Who does she fantasize about when masturbating:

No woman will tell you when and how often she masturbates. If she somehow slips this information, she will for sure not tell you who she fantasizes about while doing her thing. Her fantasy man could be anyone: Hugh Jackman, Ranbir Kapoor or the hot gym instructor. But she is not sharing this information with you.

6. The hottie in her office:

A girl has that one guy in her office that she secretly holds a soft corner for. She will steal glances at him, she will offer to bring him coffee, she will smile every time he passes. This guy is no threat to you in anyway. He is just someone your girl crushes on. No big deal. No need to panic. And no need to want to know more about him.

7. Ladies room chatter

Ladies room chatter is as secretive as men's locker room banter. While women puff and re-touch their makeup, while they tidy their dresses and adjust their bras, they discuss a hell lot of things: right from the food, to that woman’s character, to that man’s annual income. And while you will always notice them giggle as they step out of the room, you will never get to know anymore. Such banter is, after all, a secret!

The list does not end at number 7. There are many more secrets; each one more complex than the other. Till we share with you a few more secrets, these are sure to provide you enough fodder for one-to-many locker room discussions.

Taken from : http://www.mensxp.com/dating/girlfriend-grooming/6215-7-secrets-women-never-tell-you.html

10 Things You Should Know About Women

Women are complex, confounding, difficult to fathom, impossible to predict and so on.

While you need a lifetime and more to decipher a woman, you can read this article and get a heads up. We are about to let you in on the 10 things you absolutely need to know about a woman.

1. Women hate being compared

They may ‘jokingly’ ask you how you think they compare to their female friends. They will coax you to answer but you have to hold your ground. No matter what, DO NOT COMPARE. Because no matter what your answer is, you will end up upsetting her.

2. PMS is for real

If your weenie bled for 5 days every month, you would be cranky too. Be grateful that you don’t have to endure this biological discomfort and be considerate towards the after-effects she experiences (every month) because of it.

3. Women know when you ‘look’

You may make a surreptitious attempt to look at her cleavage or/and at her breasts, and you may think you have succeeded in ogling at them without her knowing. You are wrong. A woman will know when you look (stare). So if she questions you about it, don’t be a fool and deny it. Either way, you will get an evil look for looking at what is not yours to look at.

4. Women have a sex drive

Shocked? Don’t be. Contrary to popular Indian belief, Indian women do have a sex drive. They are not coy creatures who will flutter their eyes and sigh deeply when you touch their shoulders. They are in fact nubile beings who will grab your butt and wink at you if they are interested. If they are not interested, you will get an evil look. Or a slap. Depending on your sickness meter.

5. Women love being taken care of

Not being ordered around and being dominated, but women love being taken care of. They especially love it if you hug them after a long day, or if you tell them that they should take it easy or when you volunteer to hold their bag. So sweet!

6. Women love romance

This shouldn’t surprise you. If it does, WOW!

7. Women are protective of their girl-friends

Okay, there will be days she will crib about her friends and get upset and tell you how ‘that one’ behaves bitchy and how ‘this one’ thinks she is one bit too smart. She is ALLOWED to say whatever she wants about her girl-friends. If you EVER as much as utter one negative thing about any of them, she will eat you up alive.

8. Nothing beats Gossip!

Gossip, girl-friends, gin – the 3 Gs that rock a woman’s world. Bring them all together and you have an absolute winner.

9. Women ALWAYS want to eat dessert

Women want a waist like Katrina and legs like Deepika, but they want dessert more. If you ask her whether she would like to eat desserts, images of Katrina’s waist and Deepika’s thighs will flash in front of her eyes and she’ll say no. If you simply call for a dessert of her choice, she’ll devour it first and then you!

10. Women grab their crotches too

But as Padmalakshmi rightly said, they are decent and sensible enough to do it in the privacy of their bedrooms or bathrooms. A habit that men need to develop too? Yes, we definitely think so.