5 lies women tell men

The most common lies women tell

We’ve heard the lies that men tell women and now we think it’s about time the ladies came clean too; trust us, they don’t exactly come out smelling of roses. From lying about how many sexual partners they’ve had, to pretending they’re a dress size smaller than they actually are, the females have their fair share of fibs. Here’s the lowdown:

Lies women tell men 1: “I don’t know where it is! I haven’t touched it!”

Whether you’re a man or a woman reading this, you’re probably familiar with the scenario where she tidies up and suddenly his possessions go AWOL. On most of these occasions, the missing item mysteriously appears somewhere obscure, such as in her handbag (what could she possibly want with a beard trimming kit?). When questioned again as to how the missing item got there, she suddenly remembers that she put it there because it was making a mess around the house so she wanted to shove it somewhere out of sight. Men can’t seem to leave anything anywhere without it being swept up and taken elsewhere. If you’re going to move something ladies, at least remember where you moved it to and don’t tell the “I haven’t touched it!” lie to your man. Men know that they need a little help keeping the place clean every now and then, but what’s wrong with putting his things where he can see them? We rest our case. Oh wait, where did that case go? Anyone seen a case?

Lies women tell men 2: “No way! I love that too!”

Women have hobbies – granted. Why is it though, that whatever their love interest enjoys doing in his spare time, this is suddenly their favourite hobby too? A man could tell a woman something random like “I enjoy rock climbing with a purple crayon in my rucksack” and she’d say “no way! I love that too!” Ladies like their love interests to think there’s some sort of profound, deep-rooted connection that makes you love all the things they love and vice versa; this is more weird than impressive when they take it to the extreme though. Gents, next time a lady blatantly pretends to like something just so she can connect with you on guy level, take her to a boring match and snigger quietly into your chips as she struggles to hold her passionate smile in place for a moment longer.

Lies women tell men 3: “I wouldn’t change a thing about you”

When a woman says this, her pants are on fire. A woman might think that there’s nothing she would change about her man, but that’s until she realises his annoying habits and then compiles a dossier of her perfect man in her mind. If they wouldn’t change a thing about men then why do they nag their other half to clean up after themselves, have a shave, and stop leaving the toilet seat up? A woman may say that she loves these mannerisms because “that’s what makes you, you” (alongside all the other men in the world who share the same habits), but when they’re red in the face from yelling at their partner you realise they were just saying that they wouldn’t change anything about them out of politeness. Bless women for being so sensitive towards your feelings.

Lies women tell men 4: “I’ve not had many sexual partners”

When it comes to sexual partners, women are notorious for being economical with the truth. In fact, a recent survey published in the Journal of Sex Research states that a massive 68 per cent of women take a few notches off the bed post when asked about their past sexual encounters. Why? Because no matter how much we try to gloss over it, there is still a large amount of social stigma attached to women who have had their fair share of sexual partners and, with the derogatory labels used to define them, it’s no surprise that women would rather keep the truth to themselves. There’s a general rule of thumb that suggests that when a man says how many women he’s slept with, you should take three off to get an accurate number. For women, you add three on. In a society that has advanced as far as it has today, women should perhaps be treated equally to men, yet unfortunately they still feel pressured to tell porkies when this subject arises.

Lies women tell men 5: “I won’t get mad if you say I don’t look good in this dress”

Ahh this is an old classic. Women want the truth so that they know whether they can wear that dress or not, but when they’re told they look great, they never believe the poor worried man who just dished out this compliment. The reply is often something along the lines of “Great? I look great? Can you not see my muffin top?” When a man says “maybe you should change into something else”, suddenly he becomes the insulting bad guy who hates his other half’s body. This is the ultimate trap that most guys fall into at some point during their life. As soon as a man sees his partner changing into a new dress, he should run for the hills. Either that, or women should just say something along the lines of “tell me the truth or tell me a lie, either way I’ll be mad at you”, to give their partner a chance to hide.

5 Things You Could Be Doing to Hurt Your Career

1.    You're rude. While it's easy for most to be gracious when our careers sail along smoothly, rough waters can sink a generous attitude quickly. This is not, however, a good enough excuse for insolence. Whether disappointed by an unresponsive recruiter, angry that your last interview fell short of an offer, or upset you were passed over for a promotion, rein in your ire. Resist venting through rude emails, voice mails, or other irreversible actions. Also, be cognizant of how passive-aggressive action--not showing up for appointments or conveniently forgetting to perform a promised follow-up--can radiate as rude. Step up during bad times by being gracious for what is going well in your life and paving a new path toward happiness. Weed out the naysayers and Negative Nellies and surround yourself with encouraging, positive people. Take the reins of your life or fake it until you feel it and soon you will cultivate a genuinely renewed sense of optimism.

1. 2. You pawn off the hard work. Whether aspiring to the next level at your current job, or seeking that next big gig at another company, the onus ultimately is on YOU to make it happen. No one else: not your boss, not your co-worker, not the resume writer or career coach you hired and certainly not your husband/wife/best friend can perform your heavy lifting. This doesn't mean that you shouldn't seek help (you should--none of us lives in a vacuum); what it does mean is that you can't outsource the hard stuff, especially the thinking, planning, and execution. You may hire someone to perform parts and bits of your career transition strategy, but ultimately you must expect to sweat intellectually to build the career muscle you desire.

1. 3. You don't track your achievements. If you're gainfully employed, you're accomplishing something; otherwise, your company could not justify your salary. When tracking accomplishments, answer the question, "What do you do that affects sales or profits?" Even if you're a chief bottle washer, you are cleaning a certain number of bottles in a way that efficiently prepares them for the next customer, and without customers, your company wouldn't generate revenue, which means your company can't pay you, and you wouldn't have a job. You get the drift. If you don't track your contributions, then you can't build a good resume that will sell you to a new employer (proving that you EARN your salary). While this example may seem simplistic, the message here is you must make the effort to know how what you do affects the bigger picture. Insisting that you don't have any real accomplishments is an attitude that will leave your career languishing.

1. 4. Your social media persona is a sad country song. Every tweet is a complaint. Every Facebook post is a tirade or a tear-stained commentary regarding your last breakup. Every LinkedIn update is a solicitation for a job. You don't interact with others. You neglect commenting on others' posts or cheering someone else on. You're not only negative, but you're all about you. If this describes you, then consider revamping your social networking strategy. Social media is just that: social. You must interact, you must be relatively positive and you must add value. Period.

1. 5 You don't say, "thank you." Whether following up on an interview or showing appreciation for the free advice that a friend, family member, mentor, recruiter, career consultant, etc., gave you, always, ALWAYS say, "thank you." Here's a little secret, the more appreciative you are, the more likely those helpful people will recall your name when your perfect career match crosses their path. EVERYONE has a Rolodex, but few are willing to crack them open for ungrateful people. If you are currently stuck in an entitlement mentality that prevents you from displaying gratitude, you may want to reconsider your approach. As a result, you may be pleasantly surprised at the uplifting impact on your career. While there are no magic bullets to career success, one thing is certain, consistently behaving badly is a magic bullet that will disable your career. The likelihood of sailing into your next career port improves greatly by avoiding these five behaviors and turning negativity into positive and forward momentum.

5 things to consider before relocating for work

Many employers pay all or a part of the costs, but employees often have to shoulder significant expenses in order to move for a job. Here are five issues to consider before you agree to relocate.

As unemployment continues to be a major issue across the country, employees are more willing than ever to pull up the tent stakes and move across the state or even across the country for new jobs. Employers often move existing employees to new locations in order to maintain an experienced and trained workforce. Many employers pay all or a part of the costs, but employees often have to shoulder significant expenses in order to move for a job. Here are five issues to consider before you agree to relocate.

Industry Isolation

Thinking about losing your new job is likely not high on your list of considerations, but it should be. Before deciding to make the move, research the other companies in the new city that hire employees with your skill set. If there are very few, you may find yourself stuck in an area where you won't be able to find a new job in your field without moving again.

Real Estate Market

It may not be as easy as it once was to quickly sell your old house in order to buy a new one. Banks are less likely to extend bridge loans to allow you to purchase before you sell, as the credit market continues to be tight. On top of that, if you are moving from an area with depressed real estate prices to a booming area, you may lose some of the existing equity in your home. Consider the rent you would have to pay while negotiating your salary

Employer Incentives

Find out exactly how much your employer is prepared to pay for the move, either in direct costs or a moving bonus. Before accepting, outline all of the costs of the move and ensure that the employer's contributions cover a significant portion of those costs. Even if your new job pays more, it won't benefit you until you recover the out-of-pocket costs of the move.

Community

You won't be working 24 hours a day, so the type of community you are moving to makes a difference. This is even more important if you are moving a spouse and children with you. Are there activities for kids, green space for walking and recreational facilities, such as movie theaters and concert halls? What are the local schools like? Check out the new city before moving to ensure that it fits with your lifestyle.

Upward Mobility

Your future with any company isn't a slam dunk, but if you move in order to start a new job, consider the future opportunities to move up. For example, if your current employer wants to move you out to manage the plant, reflect on how that fits in with your goals to be a corporate vice-president five years down the road. Ensure that your career path is aligned with the potential to grow at the new location.

The Bottom Line

Packing up your life and moving for a new job is a major event, both professionally and financially. Upfront planning and analysis can help keep you from jumping into a situation that can hurt your wallet or your future career track. Be sure that the move benefits you as much as it benefits the employer.