7 secrets women never tell you

It is no secret that women are good at keeping secrets.

Sometimes these secrets are life changing and sometimes they are so ridiculously stupid that if they would be known they would be the cause of major embarrassment. No matter how ‘close’ you’ll are as a couple, there will be some secrets that your woman will never tell you. This does not reflect on your relationship or her love for you, but something’s are just not meant to be told.

Whether she tells you or not, we are going to spill some of these secrets (generic ones) and let you in on the woman psyche just a tad bit more.

1. The number of crushes she has had:

Why you would be interested in knowing more about her crushes is something women cannot comprehend. But if you do ask her about her crushes, don’t expect the absolute truth. There are some things that women like to keep to themselves. These boy-crushes remind them of the good young days, of the innocence lost and of simpler times. Unmasking the crush could mean tampering with those pure memories. Hence, women don’t like to talk about them.

2. Whether it’s PMS or simply, her bitchiness:

Women can switch on the ‘bitch’ mode as and when they like and switch it off as per convenience as well. Sometimes, there are people that truly piss them off. And if these people are your close friends then the situation is bound to get tricky. A woman will remove her frustration and put that person in place by being voluntarily bitchy, but she will cover it up by saying it was good old PMS doing the bad stuff and not her. This is an old trick that most women use, so beware!

3. What’s her annual shopping budget:

Women can never get enough of shopping. It will do you good to know that shopping for women is not a hobby; it is a full time job. And this job is one that women take more seriously than any other. Shopping plans and agendas are always made well in advance and are meticulously planned. What should be purchased, what is needed and what can be put on hold: it is all stored in the mind palace. And this detail will not be shared with you in advance. It will only creep into the conversation if monetary assistance or opinion is absolutely needed. So next time she squeals about having ‘impulsively’ bought a new bag, you know better!

4. What she and her girlies do/talk about during Girls Night Out:

All questions pertaining to Girls' Night Out will be met with minimum responses and a quick change of subject. If you push further, you will get one steely look and that will be enough for you to not prod further. Girls Night Out is her time to let go, have a good time and focus on herself. She will not share these precious ‘me’ moments with you.

5. Who does she fantasize about when masturbating:

No woman will tell you when and how often she masturbates. If she somehow slips this information, she will for sure not tell you who she fantasizes about while doing her thing. Her fantasy man could be anyone: Hugh Jackman, Ranbir Kapoor or the hot gym instructor. But she is not sharing this information with you.

6. The hottie in her office:

A girl has that one guy in her office that she secretly holds a soft corner for. She will steal glances at him, she will offer to bring him coffee, she will smile every time he passes. This guy is no threat to you in anyway. He is just someone your girl crushes on. No big deal. No need to panic. And no need to want to know more about him.

7. Ladies room chatter

Ladies room chatter is as secretive as men's locker room banter. While women puff and re-touch their makeup, while they tidy their dresses and adjust their bras, they discuss a hell lot of things: right from the food, to that woman’s character, to that man’s annual income. And while you will always notice them giggle as they step out of the room, you will never get to know anymore. Such banter is, after all, a secret!

The list does not end at number 7. There are many more secrets; each one more complex than the other. Till we share with you a few more secrets, these are sure to provide you enough fodder for one-to-many locker room discussions.

Taken from : http://www.mensxp.com/dating/girlfriend-grooming/6215-7-secrets-women-never-tell-you.html

10 Things You Should Know About Women

Women are complex, confounding, difficult to fathom, impossible to predict and so on.

While you need a lifetime and more to decipher a woman, you can read this article and get a heads up. We are about to let you in on the 10 things you absolutely need to know about a woman.

1. Women hate being compared

They may ‘jokingly’ ask you how you think they compare to their female friends. They will coax you to answer but you have to hold your ground. No matter what, DO NOT COMPARE. Because no matter what your answer is, you will end up upsetting her.

2. PMS is for real

If your weenie bled for 5 days every month, you would be cranky too. Be grateful that you don’t have to endure this biological discomfort and be considerate towards the after-effects she experiences (every month) because of it.

3. Women know when you ‘look’

You may make a surreptitious attempt to look at her cleavage or/and at her breasts, and you may think you have succeeded in ogling at them without her knowing. You are wrong. A woman will know when you look (stare). So if she questions you about it, don’t be a fool and deny it. Either way, you will get an evil look for looking at what is not yours to look at.

4. Women have a sex drive

Shocked? Don’t be. Contrary to popular Indian belief, Indian women do have a sex drive. They are not coy creatures who will flutter their eyes and sigh deeply when you touch their shoulders. They are in fact nubile beings who will grab your butt and wink at you if they are interested. If they are not interested, you will get an evil look. Or a slap. Depending on your sickness meter.

5. Women love being taken care of

Not being ordered around and being dominated, but women love being taken care of. They especially love it if you hug them after a long day, or if you tell them that they should take it easy or when you volunteer to hold their bag. So sweet!

6. Women love romance

This shouldn’t surprise you. If it does, WOW!

7. Women are protective of their girl-friends

Okay, there will be days she will crib about her friends and get upset and tell you how ‘that one’ behaves bitchy and how ‘this one’ thinks she is one bit too smart. She is ALLOWED to say whatever she wants about her girl-friends. If you EVER as much as utter one negative thing about any of them, she will eat you up alive.

8. Nothing beats Gossip!

Gossip, girl-friends, gin – the 3 Gs that rock a woman’s world. Bring them all together and you have an absolute winner.

9. Women ALWAYS want to eat dessert

Women want a waist like Katrina and legs like Deepika, but they want dessert more. If you ask her whether she would like to eat desserts, images of Katrina’s waist and Deepika’s thighs will flash in front of her eyes and she’ll say no. If you simply call for a dessert of her choice, she’ll devour it first and then you!

10. Women grab their crotches too

But as Padmalakshmi rightly said, they are decent and sensible enough to do it in the privacy of their bedrooms or bathrooms. A habit that men need to develop too? Yes, we definitely think so.

9 things not to ask in a job interview

1. How much will I make?

While certainly you should discuss salary before taking the job, asking too early can turnoff potential employers. An employer wants to feel like you're interviewing for the job because you're interested in the company and the position, not just the money.

Wait until you've been invited back to bring up salary, and even then, tiptoe around the issue. Try to word the question better, such as, "what's the salary range for this role?"

2. Who do I speak with about vacation time?

You haven't even gotten the job and already you're asking for time off. This is a huge red flag for employers, especially in the interview process. If and when you get to the offer stage and you think there will be a scheduling conflict, you may bring up any already planned events, but only at the appropriate time in the hiring process.

3. Where is my parking space?

This is just an example of one of an infinite number of superficial questions that have no place in a job interview. Rest assured: this company has hired before, and if the employers select you as the best candidate for the job, they'll fill you in on everything you need to know--from where to park to when to take your lunch break.

4. What does the company do?

Ask this if you want a quick escort out the door. It is your responsibility to study up on any company that's interviewing you. You should be able to walk in and tell them what they do, about their products, their competitors, and even the most recent company news.

You can, however, ask intelligent questions about the company, such as:

--What are the biggest challenges someone in this position will face?

--How would you describe the company culture here? How do you measure someone's success who works here?

--How has Company X's strategy changed in light of [insert intelligent comment here from all the research you've done]?

5. When do I start?

Confidence is an important trait to show while you're interviewing, but cockiness will send you to the door. You shouldn't presume you have the job in your initial job interview. You're likely one of several candidates being considered, and even if you're the most qualified, attitude trumps experience in many cases. A better way to work around this blatant question is to ask when the hiring manager expects to make a hiring decision and have the new person start.

6. How flexible is the company?

If you're already looking to bend or break the rules when it comes to showing up to work late, leaving early, taking long lunches or other situations, chances are the human resources manager is going to move on to the next candidate. Before asking the hiring manager to accommodate your personal circumstances, make it clear through the interview process that you're the ideal candidate for the job.

7. Can I telecommute?

If telecommuting wasn't described in the job description, then most likely the company is looking for somebody on-site. At many companies, telecommuting is an earned privilege and not one offered right out of the gate. Asking indirect questions may give you some insight into how flexible the company is with telecommuting, but if it seems like it's on a case-by-case basis, you'd be better off to leave it until you've been working in the company for a while.

8. Any personal question.

It's perfectly fine to start with small talk to warm up the interview, but don't cross the line with the personal questions. If you see a photo on her desk, it's natural to ask if it's her family, which could lead to a generic conversation about her kids, but don't ask her if she plans to have more children, if she's married, or how old she is. None of it pertains to the subject at hand: how you qualify as a job candidate.

9. Too many questions.

 

If you're nervous you might ask lots of questions to keep the other person talking. Try to be aware of how many you're asking and not to come across as if you're interrogating the interviewer. You want to get the questions answered you feel like you need to know to move forward in the interview process, but leave some for your follow-up or next interview.

Author, Lindsay Olson is a founding partner and public relations recruiter with Paradigm Staffing and Hoojobs.com, a niche job board for public relations, communications, and social media jobs. She blogs at LindsayOlson.com, where she discusses recruiting and job search issues.